Updated: Jan 17
Is it just me or did this trimester just seem to rush by? The first trimester was the longest 3 months ever, with having to wait to tell people and the worry of the first scan. But then seeing as I skipped straight into the second trimester without even trying I couldn't tell you if the transition from first to second felt any different. It's contributed to the feeling that the second trimester has been a hell of a lot shorter.
But where to start! It seems that everyone is all over the first trimester symptoms but all you are really told about the second is that you will feel the best out of the 9 months, with more energy and a smug glow. I never got the glow. I looked for it in week 17, but it was not there. There wasn’t even a flicker. I felt like crap and there wasn’t much that could be done about it. Unfortunately I developed a cough, I was exhausted, my headaches were back and I had this little thing called round ligament pain until about week 23. Not heard of it? Yeah, me neither, but more on that later. Even by week 27 I'm still not dewy skinned and my hair isn't any thicker than it was before.
For about 5 weeks I was legit getting home and having a nap and not even bothering to turn on the lights. Poor Leigh was coming home to a dark house and no dinner because I just didn't have the energy. To begin with I couldn't cook because bleugh and for the first part of the second trimester I couldn't cook because zzzz.
Let's talk about round ligament pain. Here's what Google says: ‘Round ligament pain is a sharp pain or jabbing feeling often felt in the lower belly or groin area on one or both sides. It is one of the most common complaints during pregnancy and is considered a normal part of pregnancy. It is most often felt during the second trimester’.
'It is one of the most common complaints' - SO WHY HAVE I NEVER HEARD OF IT?!
As I said to Leigh, it's not like I'm slim anyway, surely I should have strong ligaments from holding my tummy all these years, but apparently they need to be stronger to hold a child. Who knew?
I just wanted to highlight for you that this is a thing that happens and something I wish I'd known about rather than just assuming it was a problem with baby. The other thing that's happened as I've grown is that I am no longer able to walk at a pace, I get stitch far too easily. It's VERY frustrating as I've always been a fast walker. I guess I'll need to start slowing down now anyway, I'm only going to get bigger.
One of the only bonuses of the second trimester was that my nails grew quickly and my nausea did finally go away meaning I could tentatively start eating anything other than beige again.
Even heading into the third trimester I’m still not 100% back to pre-pregnancy eating though. My stomach has shrunk, I’m not consuming anywhere near as much, and I’m not being particularly adventurous with my meal choices either. It does mean that I only started putting on weight in week 25 and it's comparative to the weight of the baby.
The most exciting thing to happen in the second trimester was FINALLY getting to feel little one kick at week 21, after what felt like a lifetime of no movement. It was a really lovely moment because both Leigh and I felt it at the same time so I knew I wasn't going insane and just hoping for some kicks rather than actually feeling them.
They felt nothing like I had been told, I didn't get butterflies or popcorn. Instead, and I think this is the best way to describe them, it felt like a really big pulse in my lower tummy. That feeling has only grown through the following weeks, and at week 27 I now have a schedule of kick times.
Of course knowing kick times means that I only have worry whenever I haven’t felt baby move for a while. But I don’t think I’m ever going to stop worrying now. I've spent the majority of this pregnancy worrying about something, although nowhere near as badly as the run up to our 20 weeks scan. The need to know that baby was healthy and happy was consuming so when we eventually got to the scan and could see baby in all it's glory it was a wonderful moment.
The latter half of the second trimester has been a bit of an emotional rollercoaster. In week 23 I had a bit of a breakdown and a cry because I realised that my nipples had completely changed and that they were never going to be the same again. Although it had been a gradual change it all became a bit too much one Saturday morning when looking in the mirror I realised that not only were they a completely different colour, they had doubled in size and changed shape. This was not a pregnancy symptom I was expecting at all!
Saying that though - week 25 was the week that I fell in love with my pregnancy body. I read a statistic that said 80% of women hate their body when they are pregnant but I don’t know how you could! For the first time in my life I don’t have to worry about sucking my stomach in all the time and can let it just be. I like how round it is! I'm excited to see how much it will grow in the coming weeks.
I rounded off the final few weeks of the second trimester by having so many mood swings and feeling so emotional and low. I think it might be because it's so nearly the end, with a mix of hormones added for good measure. I'm not scared though - people keep asking if I'm worried about labour but I am still feeling quite zen about it which is very un-me.
The nursery is pretty much done now, we've bought all the big bits (you can see what we got here) and now it's just making it pretty. I'm starting to think about what I want to take in my hospital bag as well, and what I'd like baby to come home in. I've just got to get through these last three months now and then I'm going to be a MUM. Sounds strange doesn't it?
Seeing the baby was healthy and well at week 20
Feeling the baby kick at week 21
Seeing the baby move in my tummy at week 25
Growing a beautiful bump
Hormones being all over the place at the end
Getting my first migraine
My bloody nipples having a mind of their own
Having to walk so much slower everywhere because any speed gives me stitch
Fizzy Strawberry Laces
Sushi - But I can't have it!
Fried Chicken - I'll never forgive baby for this one
Round Ligament Pain
Can we just take a minute to appreciate the fact that I'm going to be having a baby in about 12 weeks?!